Woodster wrote:
She says, "We were all so pleased and enlightened by the Penis Party experiment – it was a rousing success! I was SO impressed with the men sharing such personal thoughts and feelings. The vulnerable setting fostered wonderful exchange. So much was learned! We’ll need to schedule another one soon! In the meantime, keep your pants on and stay sex-positive!"
http://thebeautifulkind.com/penis-party/I somehow missed this when originally posted. This is a great find as it gives us a direct report from a woman that hosted a CFNM parties completely from the female perspective. I've copied the article into an image file for permanent archiving, as shown below.
Some great take-aways from her response:
- When it's mostly men together, the event is a flop. In my experience, men has the dominance attitude that conflicts with other men, and, the men harbor homophobic tendencies keeping conversation to a minimal. Women, however, are the opposite. This is why men are never in charge nor should they have any control over a CFNM gathering - it should always be female orchestrated, female managed, female run.
- It was successful because the men were not allowed to interrupt or talk over the women. It was about allowing the women to control the conversation.
- Because of how it was presented, the event featured 8 men and 12 women - the majority that wanted to come (60%) were women. CFNM parties that are orchestrated from a male perspective typically have about 15 to 20% female.
- The women were allowed to submit written questions to the men about their penises. This way the women were not put on the spot although the men, who had to answer, were.
- She regrets that before the men sat down in front of and below the women in a circle, she did not have the men parade around showing the women their penises. Thus, the visual (voyeuristic) attraction of seeing the men's genitals is an attraction for many women at a CFNM party.
- The written questions the women asked the men included their daily masturbation habits. Hence, the men were not only physically naked in front of the women, but also psychological naked discussing such an intimate thing normally not discussed with others.
- The ladies also looked at the men's penises to see who was and who was not circumcised, which led to a conversation about circumcision and the men's penises with the only one not circumcised discussing how it was different.
- She indicated that the party was "GREAT!!!" and a "rousing success!"
Her penis party captured many important elements that make one successful - female controlled, women remain clothed, women were allowed discretion in not revealing who asked questions although the men were not afforded such (an unfair inequity that creates such a great dynamic tension), and the men were kept in a very vulnerable situation. It was why she loved the party so, and, why the ratio of women attending was greater than the number of men.
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