Mobius wrote:
coldsilvermoon wrote:
Does anyone know of any CFNM (non-BDSM) events in NYC or the surrounding area? I would love to participate, or at least help organize and be present to watch the fun. Thanks!
The CFNM events in New York that I am aware of are hosted by dominant women and are BDSM oriented. These include the Taillor group workshops in Brooklyn as someone mentioned. You don’t have to participate. Men can attend as “CFNM voyeurs “. They are required to be naked.
One of the drawbacks of BDSM CFNM is that in many of the Fetlife groups, the women aren't just dominant, they are professional dominatrices. I have no problem with this vocation, just as I have no problem with prostitution provided it's in a controlled and safe environment (of course, pro dommes hate the comparison, but for me, both are selling erotic experiences to men to satiate the men's sexual drives).
I've been in debates with many men on Fetlife and elsewhere when they post the types of experiences and activities that occur at CFNM parties but in truth, they're only experience are those they have paid a dominatrix to give them. They claim it's what the "clothed ladies" want but cannot/will not acknowledge that what the ladies *really* want is money, and they create an experience they know the men will pay for. To me, this is no different than claiming CFNM porn videos depict reality, which again is far from it. They might claim that at a CFNM party, the women keep you in a cage and only let you out to humiliate you about your small penis, whip your butt for it, then send you back into the cage. Uh, sorry Fred, that's not what happens in real CFNM parties.
Fortunately, the ladies that are truly into CFNM or CFnm gatherings on many of these discussion boards usually weigh in and tell the guy his version of CFNM is not reality, but instead a contrived experience created to take his money. They also tell such men that in real CFNM parties, they'd not have any interest in the activities that male patrons of pro dommes are into.
For me - I want the real thing and to know the women are there to experience and enjoy CFNM, not because they are hired to pretend to do that.